I remember sitting down with Nicky, my sister, and her friend (a life coach) for some amazing high tea at the Fairmount Hotel in Vancouver.

As we sat, chatted and laughed throughout the afternoon our conversation steered to what we did for work/play. We asked the life coach, whom I didn’t know at that time, what she does. She replied, “I teach people confidence.”

I almost spit out my tea. I thought, “How does someone teach someone else confidence?” This baffled me!

So, I asked! How do you teach someone confidence? You can’t think their thoughts for them, feel their feelings or follow them all day giving them motivation or inspiration.

Please note, during this time I had no interest in being a Life Coach or what I now formulate as a Vibrational Alignment Coach.

You see, many coaches out there believe they can teach confidence; or write an article on how to be confident; or 6 steps to confidence.  And that is all fine and dandy. But here’s the thing.

In order for a client to be confident, I have to demonstrate it to them by being that myself; first and foremost. Not speak of it. I AM CONFIDENCE by BEING IN ALIGNMENT WITH MY INNER BEING which in turn is in alignment with the universal stream and that is how I leverage that power in my coaching sessions.  So, I STAND as a ‘permission slip,’ if you ever need one, for you to go and be confident. And that’s the SECRET!

There are as many coaches out there as there are breaths in a day. And various types as we discussed in our article, “Life Coach versus Vibrational Alignment Coach, which one is right for you?”

Let’s take this a step further, shall we?

Many times, coaches will look at a client and TRY to HELP THEM OUT on something, whether it be a situation or an event he or she is going through in his or her life or a dilemma.

What many coaches do is DIP their vibration to meet his or her client on the vibrational disc they are on. So, if the client came into their office and on a scale of 1-10 the client was at a vibrational level of 6 and the coach was at 10, the coach dips their vibration to 6 to meet their client and then tries to RAISE THEIR CLIENTS VIBRATION from a point of ‘efforting.’

Why would you ever do that? Why would you lower your signal to the universe and then effort your way back up and drag your client along for the ride?

This is SO COMMON in the coaching industry.

Then what happens, after the session, the coach is gasping for air because it took that much energy and efforting out of them. It’s as if they ran a marathon or something!

Channelers such as Esther Hicks and Darryl Anka have always amazed me. When they wake up from the channeling state they are feeling refreshed. Yes, some energy was focused and dispensed but they are not gasping for air, in fact, they are as vibrant as always. Ever wonder why that is?  They are tapping into infinite intelligence or the greater part of themselves that is eternal and leveraging that eternal stream of Well-Being which energizes all of us, if we let it.

You see, I asked how could I implement that state into my coaching. How can I hold steady in my alignment to powerfully demonstrate what it is to BE IN ALIGNMENT, so that my client, REMEMBERS who she really is.

Below is my image of ‘The ONE.’

You see how the magnet just stands in its alignment and the rest are ALL at attention? They are ‘sparked’ or magnetized. Many strong leaders use this approach be it in politics or business where people feel energized around them.

The methodology I am speaking of is standing in your own and it will energize and align others around you. If it does not inspire others, it means they were not in the vibrational vicinity to begin with or within your vibrational sphere of influence. That is your indication or signal that you both are at different frequencies!

Should you decide to enter upon my doorstep with the intention of complaining during the session, I assure you, we will be having a very short session.  It’s okay if you had a bad day, but know that our goal together is to create brilliance and it contains a base of a high vibrational nature. You will be asked to leave should you continue a lower vibrational conversation and not want to get out of it. You see, I find most clients want to get out of it, BUT sometimes you have so much chatter going on within you and around you (the around ‘you’ is really a reflection of the ‘within’) so we just have to cut that chatter out. Meditate. Give it space. Make space for new creation. It’s the only way.

Many people go with the philosophy of struggle and hard work. And then they talk, and talk about it, and blog about it, and go to a bar with their friends and complain some more, and do a video, and write a newsletter, and go on a podcast and talk about the struggle and complain some more. Do you know what that gets you? MORE STRUGGLES! Law of Attraction says so and proves it to us again and again, no exceptions.

Why would you want to do that? I know some leaders talk about it to relate to others because we have all experienced some challenges and contrast in our lives. But, STRUGGLE IS DEAD! It’s gone. Let’s lay it to rest right here ladies and gentlemen. Here lies struggle. It was born out of man’s mind and so we shall let it rest in peace. Be blessed, struggle. Let’s neutralize it and let it emerge back into pure positive energy.  Let’s open the conversation about your new story of “Where are you going?” That’s a good start.

Struggle, like stress and negative emotion, is THE MEANING YOU IMPOSE ON ANYTHING!

Every subject is neutral, until we choose to give it meaning.

I remember one of my real estate mentors going around the meeting room looking under tables, and cloths, and flipping chairs as if he had gone mad saying, “Have you seen stress? I can’t find stress! Where is it!” None of us could find it, nor did he.

So true. Where is it? Yes, it shows up as physical manifestation such as headaches and health issues but those are just temporary; dis-ease (dis–allowing state of mind) of the abundance stream we can all tap into! You’re not letting it in! You think you have to figure it out! You think it’s all on you. You have to figure out the how, the when, the who, yes you, and if you don’t then it won’t get done or it won’t happen. And you’re right! You’re telling the Universe to reflect back at you more reasons for you to figure it out, more reasons of why it isn’t happening. Law of Attraction yet again at its best.

Why would you create such a mess?

Can we just bury hard work next to struggle? I think they were a couple in a past life.

“And here lays hard work. May it…” Well, you get the picture.

So, what’s my point?

Law of Attraction says if you THINK THAT IN ORDER FOR YOU TO GET from A to B YOU HAVE TO STRUGGLE YOUR WAY THROUGH IT AND WORK HARD, THEN! LOA will give you more reasons to WORK HARD and STRUGGLE and give you more reasons to stress over IN ORDER to get from A to B. In fact, it is THE ONLY way you will get from A to B! Why? Remember we live in an all-inclusive universe and LOA doesn’t distinguish between what is right or wrong or better or worse. It just responds to the signal you’re offering. It’s like a big organizer and shipper. It’s like a vibrational Amazon! It takes in orders or requests and mirrors back exactly that which you are offering, no questions asked!

NOW, Source! Well Source, or God, or Infinite Intelligence or Inner Being or Higher Mind, you see it knows your heart’s code. It works and speaks to you by an amazing gift called – IMAGINATION. AND, the REASON YOU FEEL ANY KIND OF NEGATIVE EMOTION is because YOU HAVE EXPANDED AND NOT CAUGHT UP WITH YOU. It means you went off your path. It means Source or your Inner Being or your soul has a different opinion about the decision you just made. And when you don’t feel good there’s a reason. Listen to that! Negative emotion is a signal and it can serve you as insightful feedback. In that moment ask yourself this: “What is it that I want from this?” This will steer you in the direction of feeling good and that is the right path. FEELING GOOD IS THE RIGHT PATH. 

So your higher mind, your soul, your non-physical magnificence speaks to you via imagination, feelings, and inspired impulses. And you RECEIVE these messages daily, if you are in tune with them you receive them crystal clear! And from there, you act upon your inspired impulse. And the path is revealed. The yellow brick road has its golden light shined upon it and now you are off to see the Wizard!

For instance, walking down this particular street doesn’t make you feel good. Or you are having a crappy opinion about a co-worker. THAT thought doesn’t make you feel good (even though at times, it feels like it does!) or this business decision to do X, Y, and Z with the company doesn’t make you feel good. LISTEN TO THAT! Listen to your intuition! Work with it! You don’t need the physical evidence because the physical evidence was in the EMOTION YOU FELT WHEN YOU WERE THINKING THAT THOUGHT! That was the evidence! You need not wait until you see the whites of their eyes.

And, so I leave you with this:

Working hard and struggling are dead. ALIGNED ACTION AND INSPIRED ACT ARE ALIVE. In fact, according to Abraham Hicks, one inspired act = 20,000 HOURS OF HARD WORK! Go figure!

Conscious being, aware being, spirit, tapping into your infinite eternal stream are ALIVE today, they always have and will be! Learn to use it or you lose it!

With love and appreciation,

Pam and Nicky